Alli, our newest little sweetie is just doing so well! There have been many MANY strides made over the last 3 months, but the biggest hurdle to get over has been how she views Daddy.... really, not just daddy, but men, or in her words, "Daddys".
She has had a lot of them..... Her first daddy, the one in Russia, was violent. VERY violent. She has shared stories that would make you cringe. Her second daddy, was most likely written off because of her first daddy.... She just saw him as mean. Is that true? I have no idea. But she definitely was scared of him. Her 3rd daddy was better, but she didn't really speak of him with respect.... and now her Daddy , Daddy.... Her FINAL daddy..... she has struggled to open up to. She will, and then she won't. Her words, "I prefer mommies".....
Mike is the most patient daddy. He has learned to wait, to hold his tongue, to speak at just the right time, to be kind, to be caring, to listen, and to instruct. He never shows resentment or anger when she rebuffs him. I truly believe that because of his patience and prayerful waiting....
TODAY became a milestone day.....
Alli has allowed interaction, but not as naturally as she does with me. Today, she was stressed after going and spending the afternoon in a waiting room at the hospital.
When we got home, she was sleepy and hungry and I added to it by asking her to feed Guess.
She said, "Will somebody go with me! I don't like to go in the yard with Bryan. (the billy goat)
The other girls were all busy, and daddy said, "I can show you how to distract him! I'll go and help you." She rejected his help, for no reason. She just dismissed him...... :/
So we went to the porch swing so we could all talk together.... at first she didn't want to talk, and then she opened up. She was actually able to verbalize that she had a harder time with daddys. We told her we knew, which seemed to surprise her. Daddy patiently told her how much he loved her and looked forward to the day she opened up to him as much as she has to me. She said, "I'm really trying daddy!" He said, "I know you are!" And we both praised her for her efforts. She apologized for dismissing his offer and then Daddy and Alli went to feed the dog together.
She was so happy.
Tonight... we watched Extreme Home Makeover, and look what I saw! Those two pictures! She was totally relaxed in his arms absorbing his love. :)
Way to go Daddy and Alli!