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A Thought

In this life we can not always do great things. But we can do small things with great love.." :) Mother Teresa

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― C. S. Lewis

Faith

I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)

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Saturday, July 31, 2010

A Visit


Our friend Hal Tait visited us on Thursday night. He spent the night and then left for Killeen Texas to visit his family the next morning.

Hal, is really a nice man. He went on a missions trip to Ukraine, back in 2001, and he met our Sarah. He has been going back every year since.

Hal was personally responsible for our Sarah coming to the United States.
You see, when he met her, he held her. And after he held her, she didn't want him to let her go. She clung to him, and then had to be pulled off of him. This was at the TB Sanitarium. She was pulled away and put in a crib and he said her wails, those desperate wails, made him cry. He couldn't get her off of his mind. When he came home to America, he took her picture and made a flyer and every where he went, he shared her story. All he knew about her, which wasn't much, he shared.

He came to his son's church in Texas, and shared about her, and a family's heart was touched. They applied to adopt Sarah. She came home to America on her 5th birthday.
And many of my readers know, she only lived with that family for 10 months. Her adoption disrupted.

As Hal was sharing with the girls how Sarah clung to him, she was grinning. He told her how happy he was that she was happy and healthy and safe..... and how God had orchestrated everything.

I was thinking about that. Even though, Sarah's adoption did not work out, with the other family, I am so thankful that they went and got her. Had they not, we would not have Sarah OR Erika. We would not have thought to go to the other side of the world. It is true. We wouldn't have. Ukraine was not on our radar screen. But God......

I am thankful that this family went. I DO believe that God inspired them to go. I do believe they did the right thing. And while, I do not understand what happened, I know they have learned just as much as we have about trusting in the Lord in very difficult times.

The important thing is, Sarah is HAPPY! She is healthy and growing and blossoming. Had they not brought her here, she would not be.

Disruption is a sad event. It is traumatizing for the family and the child and for the new adoptive family. But.... it is not the end of the world. It just might be the beginning that is needed for total healing.

I often think about Sarah's old family. I feel sad that they do not have the joy that we have with her. But I also think that they can say that they did a good thing for her in bringing her here, and also, in realizing they were not the parents she needed.
That is a very brave thing to think.

And Mr. Hal, when he gets home, said he has some very special pictures to send us of Sarah when she was in the TB sanitarium and met him for the very first time. I can't wait! :)
I'll post them when I get them.

We took Mr. Hal out to eat, and this is the girl's reaction when they heard him talking about a "girl friend". :)

Thursday, July 29, 2010

There's a Snake in My Coop!


Well Good Morning Mr. Snake! I was chatting nicely with Chiara, when Sarah ran in and said, "SNAKE!" From the sound of her panic, you would have imagined a child eating Python!

Instead, it was an egg eating Chicken Snake..... AND if you notice the large Lump in his gut; well, that was MY BREAKFAST!!!!!

I hope he enjoyed it! Because after I finish typing this, he will be enjoying eggs no more! He worked his way on the other side of the coop next to the hay bails. ugh.
We need to get him out for 2 reasons.....

1. He will eat more eggs and disturb the ladies from laying.
2. Sarah needs to do a thorough cleaning of that coop and she can't do it with a snake
in there. :)

Anna is going to help me. Daddy said, "I'm busy!" Of course that is after he ate HIS eggs! :)

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Words That Have Touched My Heart

This week the Lord has been so good to me. Inwardly, there has been turmoil. Inwardly, my heart has been restless. I KNOW THAT I KNOW that I SHOULD rest in the Lord, but when external demands of life come crowding in like a flood, and circumstance is difficult, walking the path of faith, though circumstance screams to do otherwise, is the only way to survive.

The Lord does not want us to be weighed down with burdens, but to give our burdens to him, so HE can carry our load. I need to be reminded of this from time to time. :)

My sweet Daughter Ivy, mentioned a song that is her favorite. We sing it at our church and it is so meaningful to me. I cannot sing it without weeping.


And then this week, our sweet Teaching Elder Justin, gave this message on Love.
It was amazing. "Surprised by Love"
http://cornerstonewylie.org/sermons.htm

My heart is full, as I am in the word, gleaning words of truth.

Monday, July 26, 2010

Some of Nick's Testimony



Nick has a wonderful website.

Check it out on my sidebar.... "Life without Limbs

Time To Focus

On the next school year! Already!!!!!

School starts August 11th, just 2 weeks and 2 days away. :)
Gone are the end of school ditties, "No more pencils no more books....", and onto the Beginning of School Ditties "Mom has such a lovely smile!"

I must have looked at the wrong month on the calendar... not unusual for me lately.
I was planning to start August 14, which I just figured out by turning the page, is a Saturday. I don't think that would go over so well. :) So August 11th, it is.

So what are we doing different this year????
We are going to computerized schedules and weekly manila folders instead of notebooks.
I like doing things this way, it is more efficient.
I staple the schedule to the manila folder, they put their assignments into the folder and turn it in on Friday. Papers are graded and the folder is filed with all the work checked off. I used to do this with the guys and it worked great.

We are doing Learning Language Arts Through Literature... a whole reading, vocabulary and grammar program.

We are doing Saxon Math, with the Dive CD's. (yea, a computer explanation program)

We are doing Abeka History and Science, we will dive in and add to it as we go.

I am going to continue to encourage Russian with Rosetta Stone. Sarah says she would much rather learn Spanish. LOL

I am considering changing the guest room into a school room. It gets the best light in the house, and it would take all those desks, chalk boards, bulletin boards, hand writing strips and projects out of the living room! If I'm going to do it, I have 2 weeks to get it done.
I am also hoping to get a copier/printer/scanner..... We'll see. My birthday is coming up... :)
I am excited about the year starting. I hope they are too! After all, it is rather hot outside. They have been reading all summer and I am happy that they love to read.

We will have to take our end of vacation zoo trip sometime next week. It will be sad to not have Kate and Lillian with us. :(

Soooo CHEERS! Here's to a Great 2010-2011 School year! :)

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Albuquerque or Bust!

Well, they are gone. My heart aches. But I really think that Albuquerque is a good move for our kids and grand girls. We will miss them, BUT.... There is the International Balloon Festival every year.

I LOVED living in Albuquerque before Texas. I really miss it, even over 20 years later!
Apparently Chuck does too. They will be living just down the street from where we lived before.

He has all pleasant memories in Albuquerque and Jodie's new job is turning out to be a great fit. Kate and Jodie left last week to get things set up, and they are so excited.
They have already been to Petroglyph National Monument, Santa FE, Old Town, and more.














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Be Safe dear children. We love you, and we will miss you.

Friday, July 23, 2010

Meet the Stumpy Family



Courtesy of Erika and Sarah. :)


Arf. :)

Large Texas Garden


Little Texas Tomato.

This is our ONLY tomato of the year! Ugh, what have I done wrong????

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Inspiration Award


Inspiration Award

I designed a new award to give to two very special people. One is Erika, who inspires me every day, and the other is Mommajeane, who makes me cry nearly every time I read her blog. :)

You can slide this image off of my blog to your desk top and then post it on your blog.
I have never done this and I'm not very good at it.... so, if the words don't show up, just type "Inspiration Award" in the caption and put it on your side bar.

Love,
Mom and Christie

A Special Moment



I didn't get a movie this time. I thought I was taking a movie, and instead I was taking a picture. I was using Erika's camera, AND, when I jumped in the lake, I jumped in with my famous glasses that are now gone. :(
So, I couldn't see to push the right button. LOL
It is funny, how something seemingly mindless, like water sports can bring about sweet moments that bring us together with each other and with our creator.
We can worship in everything we do, and I believe Erika understands this concept very well.

Yesterday, Erika went back on the knee board. But this time, daddy didn't stay in the water with her or help her up on the board. This time, she did it all herself.

We watched her struggle to get on that board, and get herself positioned so she could hang on. She fell off more than enough times, but didn't ask for help. And then, she got up and pulled herself to the right spot, got her rope positioned correctly and said, "GO! NOT TOO FAST!"

And we were off. It was the longest ride in history. We wound up going at a normal speed, which actually makes it easier to handle the board, and she moved all over the place and turned her body to make the board go different directions. At one point, I thought she would fall going through a bunch of waves made by a different boat, but no, she hung on.

After 20 minutes, she was still hanging on. I couldn't believe it...! There she was back there mouthing words I couldn't hear, and it seemed like she was singing. :)

She was gliding through that water like a happy fish, with the full freedom to fly, and she knew it. She was savoring every moment.

She finally let go of the rope because her hands couldn't hold the rope any longer and we all cheered at a great ride!

So what was she singing?
"In me there is strength to move mountains, In me, there is strength to walk on water, if I just believe the way and the truth and the life."

And just like our Heavenly Father, her daddy watched over her carefully in the rear view mirror to make sure she was ok.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

For My Kind....

What is my kind? The Over 50 crowd that can't seem to ski after almost 20 years out of the water. :)
I am laughing a bit..... My back feels fine, my hips feel fine, my neck feels fine.... and Mike has a sore hip for the first time. I know I shouldn't laugh, but, it is sorta funny, since I have the broken down wreck of a body. :)
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WHOOOO_HOOOOOO!

The Saga Has Come To An End



The Little fellow is gone. I'm HAPPY that he no longer raids my pantry at night. But sad that he wasn't smart enough to go into the live animal trap where he could have been transferred after incarceration to a nearby field to find other mouse friends to play with.

Instead, I had to use the old fashioned kind of trap, and yes, he ate the cheese.
Farewell Ratatouille; until I meet your next relative!

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Saturday Morning Funnies

Our grand daughter Lillian is staying with us for 3 weeks. She came with an enormous amount of Barbie dolls and paraphernalia.

I have never been a big barbie fan, but I know little girls love them. We kept with the Happy Family dolls for years, but our girls have outgrown those.

So we have allowed a few barbies around here. The girls like putting clothes on them.
Daddy's request was making sure they were dressed decently. So the girls make a lot of clothing for them.

Anna purchased a Ken doll earlier this year, and we were talking about making sure Ken was a good father and husband. :) No philanthroping Ken in our house.
So Anna has made sure Ken has stayed with one barbie. :)

Well, Lilly asked to play with that Ken doll, and before Anna could stop her, she had Ken kissing every barbie in the house!
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Anna came to me and said, "Well, I can't play with Ken anymore". I asked her why? She said, because now he is an Adulterer! I don't want to play with an adulterer!
ROLF>!

Friday, July 16, 2010

Friday Night Fun

Friday nights are Pizza and Movie nights. After the movie is over, we all pile into our room and the girls sleep on cots and we listen to the music to Roan Inish to go to sleep.

Right now we only have 2 cots and 3 girls and one grand girl. So a few kids were saying, "I have the cot by mommy!" or "I have the cot by daddy!"

Erika volunteered for the blankets on the floor, and then Lillian said, "I have the Toilet!"
Everybody looked at her puzzled.
"Lillian, you can't sleep in the toilet!"

She said, "Oh, I thought we were saying what we were going to clean!"

ROFL!

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Lilly Logic


Well, Jodie and Katie are in NM! Katie thought the mountains were rather scary. :)
Being a Texas girl, she is in for a lot of FIRSTS. :)

I loved living in New Mexico in the late 1980's. Apparently the town has nearly tripled in size since them. That must mean it is a great place to live! :)

Lilly is staying with us for another 3 weeks, but she has a hard time understanding what is going on.....

Today, her mamma called to say they made it safe and she asked, "Mama! Can I spend another night with Ya-Ya?"
Jodie said Yes you can.

She said, can I spend 2 nights??? Her mama said, "Yes, Lilly you can."

I told Lilly, "Ask your mama if you can spend 21 nights!"

She got all excited. "CAN I SPEND 21 NIGHTS???"

Her mama said, "YES YOU CAN!
And then she said, "OH WOW! THANK YOU MAMA! I'M SO PROUD OF YOU!!!! LOL

So it is settled now. We will make the calendar so she understands how many night night times until Mommy comes back.

A little Upgrade



I'm hoping he won't be able to resist!

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Our Resident Mouse



My Daughter Becca's mom said that a mouse in the kitchen sounds like it is eating a bag of doritos into a microphone! She is sooooo right!

So, I am getting more militant! I figure it this mouse cannot smell the peanut butter and cheese in my live animal trap, he has serious allergies!

I'm just glad he is a HE!

Leaving


Tomorrow morning, Katie and Jodie will be leaving for Albuquerque. Katie has been a huge part of our lives since she and her momma became part of the family 9 years ago.

Jodie is an awesome mother and she is a very dedicated Radio Program worker. ( I don't know the title) But she has been transferred to ALBUQUERQUE NM!

Chuck and Lillian will stay behind for 3 weeks, and then join them in Albuquerque.

I am sad, happy for them, and sorrowful at the loss of 2 grand daughters who live close by and have been such a big part of our lives. :(

I am so thankful for the time we have had! (and that stupid mouse is chewing again!)

I pray that this move will be great for all of them. We are going to miss them terribly!

Tonight, we took Kate out on the lake. She has never been in a boat. She did awesome!
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Tuesday, July 13, 2010

THE MOUSE SAGA!

Helping In the Kitchen

Erika decided to help Sarah learn how to make noodles on the stove top instead of the microwave. :)
All 3 girlies like to help in the kitchen. What I have noticed lately is that things are placed where I have found them to be easy to get to and not where the girls have found it easy to get to.




Soooo,
I have been observing dishes winding up in the most interesting places after the dishwasher has been emptied.
Today, I decided to change some things around to make access easier for those in the family who are "shorter". :)
I rearranged all the cupboards to make them kid friendly. I have needed to do this for a long time and it was very therapeutic for me to get things organized and clean!


So I moved all the stuff from the top cupboards to the bottom cupboards, thinned out some things I didn't need and viola'! Cupboards that the kids can reach and put things away properly now!
And the cupboard that is up high?

It is looking rather empty. :)
But that is a good thing! We don't need too much stuff! :)

Loss, Loss More Loss and Memories

We have had a lot of loss lately, and some very important members of our family are no longer with us. We also lost a good friend who worked at our shoppe for the last 2 and a half years, due to sudden death, and then, another important relationship that had been fostered over a period of several years soured.

Each of these events have been very difficult.

First, 3 years ago, Anna's foster father and Mike's brother died of treatment from Leukemia. We watched Anna closely and her responses were survival mode and then delayed reaction after the fact. Meaning that the initial shock brought a little reaction, the funeral and the family meetings afterwards were nervous, and then, there was a delayed reaction to grief at home. It was a couple of months before she really was able to grieve. Up until that point she was hypervigilant and protective of her feelings. She didn't want to talk about it!

Our gramma died a few months later. We had spent some time with her the year before.

Last year Grampa died, due to complications of cancer treatment, and once again, we all lost somebody who was very important in our family. Grampa was a wonderful grampa.
He spent loads of time with the girls and had been in Anna's life since she was 4.

A few months later, Gramma died. It was totally unexpected and again, she was somebody who was very big in our lives.

Anna's reactions to these deaths were much the same. Hypervigilance, protection of her feelings, then letting loose later.

Well, next, our friend, who has been at our home 6 days a week to work with Mike, for the last almost 3 years, died unexpectedly in his home over a weekend. We attended the funeral last week, and I was seeing a pattern emerge. Same reaction.....

And then finally, an older man that we have known for several years, and have been visiting on a regular basis, whom we thought we knew, showed that we didn't know him very well after all. He had been lying to us for years about some very important things and we had to tell our girls the truth. Very sad. :(

We have been trying to live our lives as normal as possible, but truly, it has been so very stressful.

So then, to brighten things up abit, and have some summer fun, we got this boat. Boats were HUGE in Anna's life because her foster family was big on water sports. She went swimming and boating several times a week!
When she first came home, she asked, "When are we going to take the boat out?"
When we told her we didn't have a boat, she looked at us with shock! "WE DON"T HAVE A BOAT???" LOL
No dear, we don't.

Mike has wanted to get a boat going for a long time, as he shares his brother's love for water sports. Well, the right time came and the boat was finally placed in the water over the weekend.

Anna remembered how to knee board after a few tries and seemed to have a good time.

Then, came today.

She woke up out of sorts. Dysregulated. Nothing in particular, I could just tell she wasn't herself. The grand girls are over visiting because they are moving away to Albuquerque on Thursday. More change.....

When we were in the van, she said, "I wish we didn't have a boat. I never want to go on the boat!"
I was shocked! Shouldn't have been, but I was. I said, "Well, I know you like the boat, and we'll have lots of fun on it."

She was silent.

In the afternoon, as the grand girls were putting some things away, there was no room on the closet floor because of some clothing that didn't belong there. I asked Anna, "Why are there clothes on the closet floor?" I already knew why.... just wanted to hear it from her. Her answer: "I can't answer that!"
What do you MEAN you can't answer that?
She repeated "I can't answer that!" But she didn't say it very nicely.

Things were not headed so well, so I took her into my room, and let her know I was not thrilled with her disrespect. She cried, and we eventually layed down on the bed together. I asked her about how she was feeling. It was just too much. She didn't know how she felt. She just knew she was wound up inside and frustrated.

So, we started a conversation about how things effect us. And how, when we hold in our feelings about memories or hurts or fears, they can all come out at the worst of times.
I know the boat brought back MANY, MANY memories of foster care, and she was right back there with the behaviors.

When I brought this up, she just cried.
So, I went out and talked to Mike, and just like we had to work through the Christmas Tree trauma, we will have to work though the boat trauma, re creating memories from THIS BOAT with THIS FAMILY....

I don't know why I never thought about all this stuff coming to a head. I do understand that there has been so much going on, none of us are at our best.
I wasn't as patient as I should have been and had to go and get myself regulated.

All these words are thoughts off the top of my head. So please forgive my ramble.

I was thinking about how 2 of our girls seem to just glide through all their past experiences, making up for lost time with pure joy.... A boat? COOL! Good Food? COOL! Loving Parents? Cool!

But Anna has a different makeup and set of experiences. Trauma seems to harm children in such a variety of ways. It can serve to make them stronger or it can serve to cause them continued distress IF they let it take hold of them. For some, it is a more difficult battle than for others.

The goal is to teach them ways to recognize they are in a negative feedback loop and how to get out of it, through self talk, deep breathing, praying, talking to mom, and many other ways.
We have been successful in learning how to talk yourself out of things, but she still requires me to let her know she needs to. :) She has not yet mastered the understanding of her own feelings to know that she needs to talk herself down. I strongly believe this will come with time. If I think about what I understood at 11, in my own life, which wasn't much at all, I am comforted that she will continue to grow in understanding, security, and inner strength.

When she tells me, "I don't know why I'm upset", I believe her. I don't think she does much of the time.
She didn't connect her thoughts of the past, with how she was feeling right now today.
She didn't know why she said she didn't like the boat, because she does, and she is thankful for it. (when she is regulated)

I have read that many times children from tumultuous backgrounds try to regulate themselves by recreating the tumult and then it is like a brain high, and after they have achieved a certain level, the brain begins to relax and they are regulated again.
It can be a cycle, but one that must be broken!
Over the last 6 years, we have worked on this, and if I look back, a day like today would have been the norm, not the exception. I am happy that MOST days, she stays regulated and happy.
SO when we have a day like today, it just reminds me, I need to be patient and understanding, even when I don't feel like it. And today, I really didn't feel like it. That makes me mad at myself.
I too need to remember to pray.... even throwing up an emergency prayer can make things better.
The Lord always comes through to give wisdom and love when I feel like I'm running on empty.
Lately, with all the loss, I have felt weary and tired and on the verge of tears all the time. Throw in some menopause, and all I can say is, "I'm so thankful for air conditioning!" :)

I don't really know if this post has a point, other than some kids deal with loss so differently. And kids with extreme trauma backgrounds will keep you on your toes and down on your knees, trying to figure them out.

I am so thankful for my husband who is always there being that rock that I need to discuss strategy with. :) What a true blessing he is .

It is also a fine line of understanding and expectation of towing the line with behaviors that are appropriate.

Anna fell asleep on my bed wrapped in a special blanket and holding her stuffed kitty.
When she woke up an hour later, she was calm, and came and sat down by me and said, "Mama, I'm really sorry." I told her, "I'm sorry too, and I forgive you."

We'll talk some more together later, but she is in a much better frame of mind right now, and I think we are all working through our grief in different ways.

And tomorrow, we are going back out on the boat!

Sunday, July 11, 2010

The Maiden Voyage


We finally went out on the boat. Mike has been working on getting it ready, and today was the day. I must say that I am not much of a boat person myself. I grew up near the ocean, and enjoyed swimming in the waves, close to shore! The lake is very close to us, so it makes sense to use the boat there.
I have always had this fear of boat ramps. What if the truck goes in the water? What if I can't get it out?
So today I conquered my fear and drove the truck away from the boat ramp after they embarked and then back up the boat ramp after they put the boat back on the trailer.

We didn't get out until around 7:00, so Anna was the only one with success! Mike tried water skiing, but didn't manage a good ride this time. It has been a long time. :)

Anna did great. Then, we let the girls swim off the side of the boat until the sun was going down. I only got a couple of pictures, as I was hanging on for dear life.
More fears to conquer.

I must add to this post:

The foster family that had Anna before us were huge on water sports. They had boats and jet skis and went to the lake OFTEN....
So when Anna had her first summer with us, she said, "Where is the boat?"
I replied, "We don't have a boat?"
The look on her face was priceless.... "WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T HAVE A BOAT????"
LOL I still smile when I think about that. :)

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Saturday, July 10, 2010

Charlie Is Turning The Big ONE!


Our youngest grandson Charlie is going to be one year old next week! I can't believe it!
He is so adorable and so is his big brother Mr. Will!



Now Mr. Charlie likes to smile for his mommy and daddy especially if they do this!

"Through The Eyes of a Baby"
That one even makes me smile! :) Thanks Marc and Ivy. :)

Thursday, July 8, 2010

An Important Message


I usually don't read psychology today. In fact, I have never read it. :) But today, a fellow adoptive mother sent an article that is VERY MUCH WORTH READING!

The title of the article is "Kidnapped or Saved" How some children feel about being adopted.

It was written after Justin was sent back to Russia by his adoptive mother. The person who wrote the article adopted her own daughter 4 years ago. She decided to ask her daughter, who struggled for a while when she came home, about her thoughts on the subject. It is the first article I have read from the adoptive child's perspective.

I was very pleased to see that she also covered what our children are often told before they come home. Our own daughter was told that we were going to kill her. We were going to sell her body parts. It terrified her. I was so glad that the information came out during our 10 day wait and that with our translator we put her fears to rest. But what about the child who is told this and internalizes it? Our children, being used to bearing their own burdens, many times do NOT share their deepest fears but try to handle them on their own. :(

I was especially interested too in the feelings this little girl had regarding the language barrier. She was terrified that she could not think in Russian OR English! Her parents didn't know she was feeling this way because she was unable to tell them. So things came out in rage.

So many children go through very tough times and they need US, as Parents to step up to the plate and be prepared!
Please read this article. It is a very good reminder for all of us to remember to think outside the box a little bit.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Dress Up Anybody!

A friend gave the girls some really fun dress up clothes. Here are some of the first pictures with some very fun clothes and hats!
Thanks Kay! They love them!




Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Tim is Back!

Our Nephew Tim is coming home from Prague after a year!

WELCOME HOME TIM!!!!!

Mistake vs. Intentional Act

We had a discussion with our kids about the differences between making a mistake, and intentionally breaking the law.
It seems that in our country, when people get caught in an intentional crime, they say, "I made a mistake." Somehow our language has evolved to using the word "mistake" for "crime".

If you REGRET that you robbed a bank, that is good, but don't say, "I made a mistake!" You didn't accidently walk into the bank, hold a gun up and get money. You did it on purpose! You can say, "I did something really stupid, or evil, or lacked terrible judgement, but PLEASE DON'T say, "I made a mistake".

"I made a mistake" should be used when you don't carry your numbers over correctly in your checkbook and the balance is off.
A mistake is when you buy an outfit you think is nice in the store and when you get it home it looks terrible. A mistake is when you THINK something is a certain way, and later find out it isn't, and you have acted upon erroneous information.

I'm sorry, but Date Raping a woman is NOT a mistake! Killing another person is NOT A MISTAKE!
Call it what it is! EVIL. Say, "I committed a sin". "I committed an evil act!" Or even "I lost control!". But please stop saying, "I made a mistake."

Ok, I'm off my soap box......

But.... before I go, here is what I see is the result of this "I made a mistake" mentality.
There is a blurrr in the lines where people truly DO make mistakes, vs. those who intentionally harm.

For instance, many years ago, if there were a tragedy where there was an accident and somebody lost their life because of it, it was common sense that the punishment of losing the loved one was considered enough. Mercy was shown to individuals who
found themselves in awful predicaments. An example might be: A child accidently left in a car because mother thought father had him and father thought mother had him. (I know a fine family this happened to. Luckily the child was ok, but not far from needing emergency treatment!)
Many years ago, if tragedy had occurred, the parents would have suffered their grief, and that would have been it.
But today, that same parent would be treated harshly and no different than the person who INTENTIONALLY AND CALLOUSLY leaves their child in a car. There is no room anymore in our society for human error. WHY? Because we can no longer seem to distinguish between an honest, tragic accident, and a crime. We can't seem to understand that adding a penalty of prison to a law abiding citizen who would NEVER intentionally hurt a child, is not a deterrent to keep other law abiding citizens who would never hurt a child from making a tragic mistake. We are imperfect beings, and tragedies do happen. They truly ARE mistakes, VERY different from intentional acts and callous behavior.

Recently, a little boy was allowed to drive a boat. There was an accident and his mother was killed. There is an investigation to see who is to blame and possibly file criminal charges. The little boy lost his mother, and most likely, it was his mother who allowed him to drive. She is dead. This little boy will live the rest of his life with the guilt of his mother's death. How tragic, if they investigate more and cause him to lose his father too, or grandmother! (all who were on the boat)

It seems their decision to allow a 7 year old was rather ignorant, but not CRIMINAL. Somehow, we are not distinguishing between criminal intent and just ignorant.

If we aren't careful, we are going to go down the slippery slope of Les' Miserables, where a man can get 20 years hard labor for stealing a loaf of bread because he was starving. And a man can ax murder his gramma and get out in 10 years.

Law must make sense, and lately, it is looking more and more like it doesn't. The new mindset of 0 tolerance, where a child in a school can get kicked out for bringing a plastic knife to cut his chicken and treated with equal harshness along with the child who brings a gun to school to harm others, is becoming the norm.

I'm a little concerned about the future if we stop thinking and check our brains at the door of the legal system.
No, I'm a LOT concerned.

Monday, July 5, 2010

My Sweet Grand Girlies



In about a week, my sweet grand girlies will be moving away to New Mexico! UGH! My heart aches for them. They have lived so close and we could see them all the time! Now, they will be 10 hours away! I know it is a good move for them, as the salary increase will make things so much easier for our son and his family, but oh, how it hurts to see them go so far. :(

I am so glad that Kate has a knack for photography! She took this picture of herself and Lillian. I am also thankful for modern day things like Facebook and Blogs and email, where we can stay in contact all the time, even if we don't live close by.

Pray for my kids as they move so far away, that they will be surrounded by good friends and a good church for them to attend.

We LOVE them so very much.

Holiday Highlights

We had the honor of Chuck, Jodie, Katie and Lillian coming over on the 4th to help celebrate. Here are a few pictures of our evening. I couldn't take pictures of the giant Mortar Shells Mike and Chuck sent off into the atmosphere! They were amazingly LOUD and Beautiful too. :)
I love living out where we can have a little pyro-fun. :)




You Are Still Holy

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