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I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)

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Friday, June 29, 2012

Camp 2012

We had  a GREAT time!  I climbed the telephone pole again after 6 years. :)
The girls loved hanging out with friends, going on the big swing, swimming and doing all sorts of things, like attacking a caravan of boys with water balloons after the camp fire. :)

Oh my, it was an amazing week.
Here are some highlights:
A roomie.


























 
Erika playing guitar for the talent show.




 Fishing



 In the lodge
 Shannon is an amazing counselor.  I have seen her grow up over the years, and she is going to get married in November! :)

 What a sweetie.
 A horse with a prosthetic leg. :)

 It was rock star day. :)
 Ummm. this was the result of a water balloon fight..... all bathing suits and towels up the flag pole. :)

Anna and Alli

When Erika, Sarah and I were at Camp.  Anna and Alli were busy little Biebers. :)
(the word that sounds like the S word is shout.)  I wasn't too sure at first. :)

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Camp


Tomorrow, Erika, Sarah and I leave for "Out on a Limb camp". You have to be out of a couple of limbs or have multiple limb difference, or more to go to this camp. 
Over the years we have met some wonderful people. Some have become some very sweet friends, and our reunions each year get sweeter.  The rest of the family gets to go to the Winter Camp Retreat, in February.
 I explained to Alli last year, that this is the only place where Erika and Sarah ever see anybody else just like them.  And they are very fortunate to have each other. Some children don't have a sibling with missing limbs to identify with, and it can be very lonely.

There is much to do to get ready!  I will miss Daddy, Anna and Alli, but we always talk on the phone at night.  Daddy, I'm sure will have some fun things planned for the three of them. :)

I am so thankful that we are going. I became very ill last night trying to battle an infection and had to go to one of those Emergency Room places.  I have to say, they were VERY good and got me in quickly.  After getting a shot of antibiotic, advil,  and staying in bed and not cleaning  carpets, I am already 50% better than I was last night.  I still have that one left to do that I wanted to finish before we left, but it is not to be. My body says, REST.  Unfortunately, I had to stay behind from services today. :(    But I'm glad I got some obviously much needed sleep, as I just woke up at 12:30!

So, camp here we come! :)  Stay tuned! :)

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Saturday, June 23, 2012

Carpet Cleaning Fever

We purchased a carpet cleaner so we could get the rent house ready. It did a really great job on the carpets at the rent house.  Now, I decided to do the carpets at THIS house. 

It may sound whiney, but I really do not like our carpets.  They needed to be replaced when we moved here over 10 years ago.... We never made a decision what to do with the bedrooms, so they have remained.  I have had them cleaned , but have never been  pleased with the results, the times we have had it done. AND it is COSTLY.
So here is the carpet cleaner. It looks like a vacuum cleaner from Mars. :)

 And here is our bathroom.  After I finished.   This carpet will never get perfectly clean, I will never understand light colored carpeting.   But that is just me.

When we can, we are going to get rid of this carpet and replace it with something wood.  For now..... we have carpet that is cleaner than it was yesterday; and for that I am truly thankful. :)

Friday, June 22, 2012

A Fellowship

We attended a going away party for our friend's dear daughter and her husband and children, who will be leaving to go to a far away country .  They will be planting a church. 
My heart wrenches, as I know the dangers they will face.  But I am so happy for them, that they KNOW they are doing what God would have them do.
They are leaving on Tuesday for Language school, which will last 2 years.  And then.... to the country that the Lord has led them to.
It is an honor to know this beautiful couple.  I knew our friend's daughter when she as just 3, and a little "Cubby" in Awana.  
For those who teach Awana, or Sunday School.... know, that someday, one of the children YOU teach, may be off to a faraway land, to share the Gospel....The GOOD NEWS of Jesus Christ!
And you, will have had a part in the training of that person.  Take your job seriously! Serving the Lord is SERIOUS business.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Thoughts About .....Correction That Connects

Our children's beginnings...


Tonight, we covered "The Connected Child" chapter 2 at our support group.
I could barely get through this chapter without weeping.  Reading it once again reminded me of how NEGLECTED our children were, before they came home. :(

But I was also reminded of the FOUR MIRACLES that LIVE in our home. :)
YES! They are absolute MIRACLES......

When one considers that each and every day, in the normal life of a newborn babe, their mother connects with them time and time again; touching, hugging, changing, loving and caring for them, I see just how truly NEGLECTED our sweethearts truly were.:(
To have to lay in a crib all day for YEARS.... is a nightmare that 2 of our sweeties lived  in reality.
To be neglected by parents who were addicted was a nightmare that 2 of our other sweeties lived in reality.
Yet, today, EACH of them THRIVE.
I am so thankful for them beyond words.

LOVE your children. Have COMPASSION for them.  Bring them to a place of HEALING.
It is SO HONORABLE to be a parent. :)  And it is so REWARDING..... :)

Karen asks the question in chapter 2 workpages.  What is behind the behavior? And what is your child trying to communicate?  Sound familiar? 
In other words, dig deeper.  Try to find the solution. 

Also mentioned was "the belief system"..... if your child  is a child of trauma, or comes from a difficult background", their belief system may very well be, "I am not worthy to be loved". 
"I am not worthy to be fed."  "If I were loveable I wouldn't have been abandoned."

These deep seeded beliefs are things that we have encountered with each of our children.   That is why I believe it is important to have tenderness and unconditional love during a time of needed correction.   
Taking a child who is sullen and angry and singing to them, a song like Masterpiece, with words that soften the hardest of hearts, because it speaks TO that very belief system, counters it and says, you are worthy of all of my love. You are loveable. God loves you. I am PROUD of you....

Combine THAT with, "What would be an appropriate way to respond to mom when I ask you to do the dishes?"  or.........
Mama isn't asking you to do anything to cause you harm. I only want what is good for you.
Because I love you, I cannot let you be snotty, (fill in the blank)  as you are my precious, sweet daughter.  :)
And you have a recipe for healing and building trust.


DON'T avoid correction because you don't want to deal with the fall outInstead, find a way to CORRECT that CONNECTS you to your child! 

Hey I sorta like that statement..... "Find a way to CORRECT that CONNECTS! " (and that does NOT mean corporal punishment)  I'm talking about the deep communication of love between a parent and a child.  This is called "Teaching" and it is the TRUE ART OF DISCIPLINE.   If what you are doing does not connect with your child, then it is time to do things differently.  The change starts with YOU! :)

Erika the Babysitter

Or should I say, "The Sister Sitter".... :)

Tonight, it was Anna's turn to go out with Daddy and My turn to go to the Support Group.   Erika is now 14, and we feel that each of the girls are ready to stay alone for  a time with no parents. :)  They are all doing really great.... So we were both comfortable leaving for a couple of hours and doing what we needed to do.
Oh Boy! Erika is a wonderful big sister, little sister sitter.  :)  I made the rules very clear. Just as with the brothers; each person is RESPONSIBLE for their OWN behavior; but Erika would be responsible overall in any emergency and they should listen to her.  :)

They did fantastic and had some fun in the process!  Anna had a good time with daddy too. :)
 Oh the mischief of that little Sarah face. :)


 And then Miss Alli had a turn.:)





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Oh I love it that my girlies love each other. :)  They are just precious.

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