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A Thought

In this life we can not always do great things. But we can do small things with great love.." :) Mother Teresa

Prayer Quote

“I pray because I can't help myself. I pray because I'm helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time- waking and sleeping. It doesn't change God- it changes me.”
― C. S. Lewis

Faith

I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)

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Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Fixin' The Bike Part 2

I was watching Sarah and Mike work on her bike tonight. It struck me how fast she has grown in just 4 years. Some of my favorite pictures are of her with Daddy, fixing her bike.
So I made some before pictures, and some after pictures. :)

The younger pictures were when she turned 6. She is now 10. :)




The Voice of the Martyr's Prisoner Alert



The Voice of the Martyrs is an organization that I care very deeply about. The Founders, Richard and Sabina Wurmbrand were Romanian Citizens imprisoned for their Christian Faith, during the Communist Reign in Romania.

I read Richard Wurmbrand's book "Tortured For Christ", when I was 12 years old. My Sunday School teacher spoke of him, and the book, shook my world. I remember thinking about him privately, when I went to Disneyland, when I went to the beach, when I walked to school.

I didn't know that he was still alive until I was 30 years old. A friend, signed us up for The Voice of the Martyr's monthly magazine. I was so excited I could barely contain myself the first time I saw the magazine and realized how the Lord was using this one man's suffering, to relieve the suffering of so many.

One thing in his book that touched my spirit, was that he thought people in the west were praying for him while he was imprisoned, and he was so sad, when he found out, most people in the west had NO IDEA what was going on in Eastern Europe.

Richard and Sabina Wurmbrand have both died in recent years, but the organization goes on.
One of the things we are able to do is to contact Prisoners, contact authorities who hold people in prison and respectfully ask for their release, and most importantly to pray for those who are in Chains for their faith.
The Prisoner alert web site gives much information on how to do this, and I wanted to pass this along for anybody interested.
The other website, Kids of Courage, is available for kids. There are many activities, and educational materials for Children regarding those who suffer for their faith in other countries.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

gluten free recipes

Just so you know, I am continuing to ad to my gluten free recipes in the same blog article.
It is located here

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Favorite Ed Moments


I was just thinking about some of my favorite "Ed Moments".....
Ed is our Dad. I do not consider him my father in law, just my dad. :) He is THAT wonderful of a man. He has always accepted us and been supportive of us. I could not ask for a better father.

If you have a favorite "Ed" Story, PLEASE SHARE.... in comments. :)

I remember a few years ago, Ed and Lois were visiting for Christmas. For some strange reason, I THOUGHT he had been raised on a Farm in Michigan! He wasn't.

I was planning to kill 3 roosters for Christmas Dinner. He seemed all excited about that, and so I told him, "Come on, it s time to do it. " He followed me outside and watched me do the dirty deed, and remained rather silent.
It was time to "pluck" and it was at that time I realized, this guy had never had his hands on a dead chicken before! LOL
He was sort of plucking. During that moment, I asked, "Haven't you done this before?" He said NO! I started cracking up laughing. I don't know WHY I assumed he had done this many times before.
Well, after the plucking comes the really nasty part: Pulling out the innards!
He was sitting over on the couch and I was working away on 2 birds. There was one left. I said, "If you are going to tell your friends you dressed a bird, you need to get over here and pull out he guts!"
HE DID!
It was a great memory. :)

Can I Borrow Your Face?


I woke up and looked in the mirror this morning and thought, "Yep, you are the woman with that face!"
I was going to speak at a Women's Function on Motherhood. So as I was getting ready , Sarah was admiringly watching me.

I turned to her and said, "Sarah, can I please borrow your sweet face?"
She got this shocked look and said, NO!

I said, "Whatsa matta, you don't wanna change faces wit me?" "You can be 51 and I'll be 10!"

She said, " No mama! I really don't want your moles, and I rather like my own lips." LOL

I said, "You mean you don't want my lips????"

She said, "Mama! It isn't what is on the outside that matters, it is what is on the inside!"

Good, then give me your lips!
NO! LOL

I said, Ok..... I guess I'll just have to make do with my own face and my own lips.....
And then she said,
"I sure do love my own hair!" LOL

To which Erika said, "SARAH!"

So Sarah went out of the room and I told Erika, "Potato chips are evil!" She started laughing.
Potato chips aren't evil mama, its what you do with them!
"Like, eat them?"
Yah.!
LOL

Soooo, off I went and didn't get back until 2:30! The girls stayed with Daddy, and had a great time. When I got home, I noticed that dear Erika had taken over as "lady of the house", and had done all the laundry! She continued to fold clothes while I was home, and never even tired from the experience!
The neat thing about this is that she was helping from her heart. She was not asked to, she did it as a service to me, because she knows my shoulder has been awful for a while, and I'm having a hard time doing laundry without pain.
I gave her a huge hug and told her how proud I was of her, and then I slipped her a 5 dollar bill.
I just said, "This is for you." She didn't expect it, which made it so joyful to give to her.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Our Dad


I'm up late tonight. My heart is full of love for our dad. I cannot stop thinking about him, and worrying about him. He is a most wonderful dad, and I long to hear his voice once again.
I long to hear him say, "Is that right?" He says that..... To hear his laugh, and to see his smile.

But tonight.... he isn't feeling well. He is so very tired. He is in the midst of Chemotherapy and Radiation therapy for brain cancer. Tonight, he is tired and frail, and is just not himself.

My heart is filled with compassion for our dad. I so wish that he did not have to be sick. I so wish that he was feeling strong and vibrant. I want to hear him say, "See you soon", or "How are those girls", or "What are you doin'?"
So tonight, I pray. Will you pray with me for our dad? He needs to feel the loving comfort of our Savior sweep over him and give him peaceful rest. He needs His healing touch, and soothing balm.
Love you dad......

Thursday, September 24, 2009

ADs by Google

I decided to try the google ad thing.
I'm already annoyed after the first look at the ads. LOL
I'll wait 24 hours, if I'm still annoyed, I cancel. :)

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Access to my blog

I was trying to get onto my blog and kept getting denied. Google said I had no account. ????
I finally went directly to gmail and signed in for mail and then switched over to blog and I got in.
Anybody else having that kind of trouble or was it a fluke?

Monday, September 21, 2009

God Cares About Little Things


Just the other day, the girls were talking about how much they missed the Playschool Doll house they had a couple of years ago. Last year, they decided they were too old for it, and gave it away.

As we were talking, they said that they really would love to have a doll house again, but maybe not a Playschool one.

I told them to keep their eyes open, and that maybe they could find a good deal.

Well, last night, we went to a friend's home for dinner. They have a daughter who lives at home but she is in her 30's. She also, loves talking with the girls. She came up to me during our visit and discreetly asked, "May I give the girls my old doll house? After all, I'm too old to play with it. ":)

I was really surprised that the Lord provided a doll house so quickly! Not just the doll house, but a ton of furniture too. :)
They were so blessed. They couldn't wait to play with it today. I think they have taken every chance they could to play.

What a neat gift.
Thank you notes are in order I do believe! :)

Friday, September 18, 2009

Our Wild and Crazy Chicken

We have this nutty, eccentric chicken. For some reason, she leaves the safety of the yard every day, comes up onto the back porch and lays her egg right next to the back door. She then sings a very happy egg song, and wanders back off to the yard.

Here is today's deposit, mixed right in with the girl's sidewalk chalk and a kite. :)Now that she has done her happy chicken dance and sang her song: She is wandering back to the yard where she belongs.

A BCLC Moment

I am posting this with the permission of a little girl who shall remain nameless..... :)
Pinkie promise. :)

There is a little girl, who has struggled with her math and spelling for some time now.
I have been worried about holding her back for review, as I didn't want her to get "behind".

Pretty silly for an old homeschooling mom who should know better! Duh... one major benefit of
schooling at home is to not have a one sized fits all curriculum that everybody has to fit into or they are different. LOL

So our nameless little girl began to get more frustrated... and with the school year in full swing, it was apparent to us both, she was not making it in her new math book.

But 2 days ago, all of a sudden she took a turn for the "seeming" best! She suddenly knew how to do her math and turned in a glowing paper; fake smile and all. :)
My intuition told me something I hoped wasn't true, but knew it was.

I have been through this before with an unnamed son. :) However, my reaction then, was a knee jerk reaction and not responsive.
Him.... I grounded forever! (just kidding)

With her, my heart hurt for her. She obviously felt badly enough to go to desperate measures to keep up. And I bear some responsibility for that.

When she visited me in the bathroom and told me I was beautiful, I was convinced my hunch was correct. What is beautiful after all of a 51 year old woman, just up in the a.m. and in the bathroom of all places? :)

So, I visited with her privately and asked, "Is there anything you need to tell me?" At first she said no. But then, I showed her a paper I saw tucked away near her book.
I smiled and told her I love her..... and then.....

She burst into tears. She let the whole truth spill out. She confessed her wrong and repented and asked for forgiveness; and it was genuine.
That is EXACTLY what we want our kids to do!

So we rocked in the chair for a few minutes, and talked. I confessed to her, that it was wrong to have put so much pressure on her, and that I was sorry too.

I left her in my room, so she could pray and make things right in her heart with the Lord. I told her, "When you are finished, wash your face, come out and hold your head up high, and rejoin the group."
Her sisters knew nothing of what happened yesterday, so she did exactly that.

About an hour later, it was time to go and get shots. So she and I drove to the Health Clinic alone. It gave us about 45 minutes each way to talk.... and talk she did.

On the way home, we stopped at Sonic for "Happy Hour", and we sat in the car talking.
For one of the first times since she has been home, she COMFORTABLY discussed how she had felt in the Foster Care System.
She asked questions for the very first time about her birth mother, about her circumstances of how she went to different homes, her adoption, and her confusion being a foster child.
She HERSELF, talked about the providence of God bringing her to her forever family.
And then she said something very profound....
"Mom, I always knew people thought I was bad, and I didn't know why." "But you think I'm good!" "I'm the luckiest girl in the world, because I know you love me."
She was a bit teary..... and it was a major breakthrough for her.

Today, we will be starting back in an older math book that will go back over the concepts she has yet to understand.
I am so proud of her. I am so happy that she was able to share some of her deepest fears and
tell me about some of her most painful experiences.

I am also thankful that we have a Heavenly Father who is faithful and just to forgive us from all of our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. And we walk CLEAN before our Lord as HE has paid the penalty for our sin.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

You Don't Have To Cook Lunch Today Mom


I was informed by my students that they have all packed their lunches today, and will not require a hot meal. :) Note, the HUGE lunch boxes next to their desks!

If The Lord Wills......

JOE BECCA AND SAM ARE COMING FOR CHRISTMAS!!!!!

WHOO-HOOO!!!!!!!

I am hoping Becca's Family can join us too.

Time for a new family picture. :)


Survey regarding BCLC

I was sent a link yesterday to a Survey regarding the BCLC parenting style in comparison to the Love and Logic parenting style. I am not sure why the two are being compared, but somebody is wanting to see what works for kids who have had extreme behaviors.

Research is always a good thing. I have come across this question a few times regarding research. "Is there any proven research that this works?" Even though you could have many testimonials that it works, both in your own life, in those of your children, and friend lives and their childrens' lives, it, for some reason isn't as credible, without research. :)

As far as I know, if you are using Love and Logic or BCLC you are welcome to participate in the research study. They have asked that you use only one child in your family who has. or has had, the most severe behaviors.

I have been asked a few times why we don't use "Love and Logic", the program.
My reply has been, "We do use love and logic. But we don't use our logic, or the logic of a program.Our logic is not the logic of our children."
"There is a logic to what they do that makes no sense to us; it is just THEIR logic." :)

BCLC is not a program. It is a parenting style. It looks as different as there are people in the world. The response to a child who neesds us is categorically a love response, but it may not look exactly the same each time, especially depending upon the individual child.

In a program, much of the time you will find a simple "if child does this.... then the response is this."
If child responds this way, your response should be this."

I have seen many programs designed like this, and many times, they work for a while.
It is easy to externally control a small person and make them conform. But be careful.
They may be sitting on the outside, and standing up on the inside.

I think what I like about BCLC, is that it is a shift in thinking, not necessarily a "parenting program". It is not designed to "fix" a child, but to help a parent Parent the child they have better. And when a parent is calm, and loving, not frazzled from a feisty, hurt, kid, they can usually make a much more clear headed decision, with a clear direction on what a child needs.
Much of that time, a child simply needs to know they are heard and understood; that you don't think they are the worst child on the planet, and they are safe with you.

BCLC helps us to understand the "science" behind extreme behaviors. It helps us to understand human development and what can happen in a person who's development is interrupted by neglect, abuse, alcohol or drug exposure, or trauma.
If anything, it sure does help to give a better understanding of what is happening to a child who has this type of background.
It is not limited however, to traumatized children. As I stated before, it works for any situation, even with adults, because it is designed for communication and the building of relationship.
It is a lifestyle, not a program.
If you are using either BCLC or LL, take some time and join the research study. It seems the more who participate, the better the study will be.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Unusual Weather In Texas

Can you believe it is cooler here than in St. Paul - Minneapolis Minnesota! It is.
Our lows are in the 60's and our highs in the 70's..... who knows how long it will last, but we are sure enjoying it! It has also been RAINING! For days...... sort of like a New England type rain.

So this a.m. there was a small break in the clouds and you could see some blue sky.

Sarah shouted, "Come here Mother,quick!" I thought something was wrong. She said, "Look! Isn't it beautiful! We better enjoy now it before it gets covered up with clouds again!"

LOL... I love it that she enjoys the simple things in life. She reminds me to be thankful for the blessings we have each and every day. Blue skies, rain, cool weather, sweet kisses, and the Love of our Heavenly Father.

Thank you Lord.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Lord's Day

It has been a wonderful Lord's Day today.
We attended our old church to visit. The girlies were happy to see their friends, and we were too.
While we were sitting in the service, I noticed a visitor that looked quite familiar. He was sitting by our Baghdad Missionary friend. I was thinking, how strange.... they are sitting there together, but I couldn't put my finger on who that guy was.
That was, until our Missionary friend got up an introduced him.
He said, "this is my Taxi driver "Dwayne Clark".
I was thinking "Dwayne Clark! that is who that is! LOL
It is really a small world.
I have not seen him in years, (maybe 15 or 16). We were not personal friends, but he visited our old church, Calvary Chapel, on a few occasions, and led our worship team, of which I was a part, in study and learning new music. We got to sing with him a couple of times.

Apparently, he is the music minister in the Church in California now, where our missionary friend attends.

Our girlies enjoyed going to Sunday School with a new teacher. She is a dedicated teacher and has taught the 5th grade for years. When they came down from their class, I asked them, "how was Sunday School?" They said Great! I asked, "who taught you today?"
They said, "I don't know but she sure was pretty and she sure was nice!
How's that for a nice compliment to a Sunday School teacher? :)

It was nice to have communion this a.m. and to partake in the word and prayer.
Have a Blessed Lord's Day.

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Anna's Funny for the Day

Customer : I'll have Çhicken Salad please!
Waiter: Right away!
Customer: "Hey Waiter, there is no Chicken in this Salad!"
Waiter: "Of course not, do you expect cats in cat food?"

Things I've Learned From My Kids

Baby's EAT A LOT....they do not care if you are tired. They want to eat.
They do not care if you are tired. They need to be changed, and then they barf.


Toddlers listen to commercials and can repeat them in the most embarrassing of places.
Chuck, at 2 picked up a huge package of feminine napkins at the grocery store and said, "GET THESE, There super absorbant!"
TV OFF!
Boys need to be told their wardrobes do not consist of super man underwear and cowboy boots.
Boys also need to told they must wear clothes to go outside!
If boys could choose their own wardrobes, they would be superman underwear and band aids all over their bodies.

Boys are HONEST. Wonderfully HONEST! I seem to remember one of them looking at my legs and saying, "mom, your legs are just like Rifles!" Did he mean they were long?

We learned this at family dinner time:
During our prayer Joseph thanked God that he and Marcus made it up onto the school roof and back down safely. To which, everybody's eyes opened, but nobody said a word, until after prayer was over. :)

Boys are physical. They need wonderful, LOUD activity. We were so fortunate to have a big backyard.

Boys love their mom. They are always good for a great snuggle.

Boys aren't snippy gossips. They say things like it is, forgive and move on, never
to think about it again. I love this about boys.
One of our son's best friends to this day, and our son, had an argument. Our son's friend called him a sun flower, because he was wearing his favorite orange sweat pants and shirt.... our son got mad and threw something at him. His friend called me and said, "Mrs. M. It is time for Joseph to go home. :)
LOL I went to pick him up. They had already made up and it is now a big funny story.

Boys don't cry if they don't understand their math. They don't cry if there is a new challenge. If they have to do it again, you might get a groan, but not a full fledged dramatic alligator tear cry.

Boys will do anything to create nun chucks, including getting into mom's hygiene products, tying them together and taking them outside. :/

When boys turn 10, they need deodorant.
Boys love to make movies. If you have a video camera, it will provide HOURS of unending creative fun for them.
(think Spielman)

Boys will cooperate with most anything you ask, including killing 10 turkeys, and getting them freezer ready all in one night before leaving for vacation.

Boys are quieter with their compliments, but you know they love you forever.

Boys are not run by emotion, so when they determine to do something, they do it.
Boys become men far quicker than we are ready for them to.
It is important to let them be men, even while they are still boys to their mom.

Boys will eat Top Ramen every single day without complaint if that is what it takes to get through college.

If you let your boys know you are coming to eat at their restaurant, they will put a table cloth, candle, and the best cloth napkins on it. They will serve you in a manner fit for Kings and Queens, just because they love you. (of course great tips help)

Boys will bring their future mate to meet you, just to get your input.When boys marry, they go and cleave to their wives, which is what they should do.
And there is a little pain in a mom's heart, because the time was so very short, and
they are now men.

Girls are a different sort of creature.
They wake up wondering what they will wear for the day.
Then they change their minds several times and you have much laundry to do.

Girls play is quite different. They are not out wrestling on the ground. Instead they walk in pretty dresses with umbrellas, pretending to be Anne of Greene Gables. They love to pretend to be a mommy, so every animal is their child. They love to play "house", so they will rearrange things for you, and then, when you go to cook, you can't find anything.
They do this to the groceries too, and their organizational skills are usually different than your own.

Girls can play very well together, but they are much more interested in who is in charge and who gets to make the decision.

Girls spend 3/4 of lunch time deciding 1. who is in charge 2. what they are going to play 3. what each person's character is, and then it is time for lunch to end and they complain they didn't have time to play!

Girls tend to hold things against each other that boys don't even think about.
"She looked at me!" " "Well golly, I'm really gonna have to do something about that!" LOL

Girls have to be taught to use kind words, speaking sweetly, not thinking the worst of somebody, where boys just seem to be natural at that.Girls LOVE their daddy! They love to go places with him, of course this is all decided ahead of time between them. Its the turn thing again.

Girls are more "Crafty" oriented than boys. They can sit for hours cutting paper, gluing things, painting pretty pictures, making crafts for the tree at Christmas, knitting, sewing, embroidery; it seems to be a natural thing for them.

Girls love to do "school".... When school is over, they "Pretend school" and even do real math problems! go figure.... LOL

Girls make a big change in maturity when they start to change physically. Some things they won't do anymore, they are much too lady like; sometimes they forget and climb that tree. :)
Girls will sit and talk and talk and talk AND TALK, and tell you all sorts of things about their day, what they are thinking, how they are feeling, and ask you "what do you think mom?"
They need reassurance that they are beautiful, lovely creatures. But they also need to be taught that true beauty comes from within the heart, and the real time we spend needs to be on our hearts, not on our hair.

If you take a nap around girls, you will wind up with a manicure and a pedicure.
Your hair may be styled in a most interesting fashion, and they DON'T want you to change it.

Girls like to go "shopping", just to look. I'm a girl and I don't particularly like this, but all of mine do.

Girls are so very interesting. They have taught me a lot about being a girl. For a long time I was uncomfortable with my own girlhood.

Having been in a family of all men since I was 18, made me the odd girl out. :)
Having the girls though, has helped me to see and learn much I didn't understand about myself from my own childhood.

I am so thankful for my boys and my girls. I am so thankful for the blessings the Lord has given to us. I am so thankful for the lessons the children have taught me over the years. I have been humbled and blessed by having been a part in their lives. I do not deserve to have had such a wonderful life.

One of the most important things I can do for my kids is be vulnerable. To let them see my flaws and to show them that we all have them and that God knows it. We cannot hide them from him, and they shouldn't hide their flaws from us.
For them to see me study the Word of God looking for answers when I don't have them, is so important; to apologize to them if I haven't answered them with a soft heart. It is important for them to see me pray. It is important for them to know that I pray for them daily. It is important for them to know that I think EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM are wonderful, unique, talented in their own ways, precious, lovely individuals and that we, both mom and dad support them in all they do. It is important for them to know that I love dad and dad loves me.

I am convinced that God gives us our children as gifts, to mold, teach and shape US, while we are in the process of trying to teach our own children. They are part of the water he pours on the clay so we can blend, not be so rigid, so we can be crushed down, and built back up through dependence upon Him. As we learn to depend upon Him, for guidance, for wisdom and instruction, He brings that clay pot through the fire, and the shape that the pot takes eventually, in the end is refined and pleasing to the Lord. I'm still in the water pouring and fire stage. :)

I used to think that God did it backwards. He gave kids energy and adults fatigue.
Now I know that he did that so we would not depend upon our own selves, but be ever dependent upon him to get through our days.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Today is Nine, Nine Zero Nine!

The Next one will be 10-10-10
Then, 11-11-11
Then 12-12-12

Some article I read said it would be 92 more years before another number event....
??

I think we should celebrate. :)

Writing Poetry With A Little Help From My Friend






Nine Eleven

Towers so tall
No one thought they would fall!
Planes flying in the Air
Leaders soon got a call.

The towers had fallen
Twas the planes.
Superman, no time to come to their aid.

Loved ones grieving
From the men so deceiving
Lots of men dead
Some, sick in their bed

Ben Laden HAD NOT WON!
The battle just begun.

You Are Still Holy

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