Ok, We'll try!
The Minich Family Blog: Every Family Has A Story...Welcome To Ours
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Catching Pictures..... :)
Do We Have To?
Somebody isn't cooperating!
Do we have to smile!
That wasn't funny!
Again???
Ok, We'll try!
WE HAVE HOW MANY KIDS?
Ok, We'll try!
Monday, August 26, 2013
Our Anniversary :)
(our beach picture) :)
It was a very special day, that we actually celebrated yesterday. :)
24 years ago, Mike became a husband for the first time, and a father of 4! Yes, I was a "package deal".
Mike adopted all of our sons, except our oldest who was not allowed to be adopted, so he took joint managing conservatorship, which is as close to adoption as you can get.
We have had a very full 24 years and love each other more each year. We have had a lot of changes in our lives. Things have not always been easy. They are not easy now. Being small business owners is hard work!
But we LOVE raising our girls together. We love serving in our church together, and we love the Lord who brought us together!
Praise HIM for 24 good years! May He grant us more. :)
It was a very special day, that we actually celebrated yesterday. :)
24 years ago, Mike became a husband for the first time, and a father of 4! Yes, I was a "package deal".
Mike adopted all of our sons, except our oldest who was not allowed to be adopted, so he took joint managing conservatorship, which is as close to adoption as you can get.
We have had a very full 24 years and love each other more each year. We have had a lot of changes in our lives. Things have not always been easy. They are not easy now. Being small business owners is hard work!
But we LOVE raising our girls together. We love serving in our church together, and we love the Lord who brought us together!
Praise HIM for 24 good years! May He grant us more. :)
School Days
The rest of us will watch her leave on her bus.... and wait for her return, and in the mean time.... we will have our first day of school too! :)
I think she looks awesome! Everybody else? Well, somebody is still in P.J's. at 7:50 a.m. We start at 8:30. :)
More pictures to come! :)
And we started our school day again today too! :) Here are my 3 students.
Miss Alli is the tallest now!
And Miss Anna arrived home safe and sound with a big smile on her face,
Saturday, August 24, 2013
Getting Ready for School
Anna went first!
I went next
Next was Sarah
Then Alli
WOW.... Here come locks of love!
And finally Erika
And Becca is still smiling! :)
Joseph wearing Felix....LOL Baby Sumo!
When We Fail
Last week, Aus asked if I could post on failure. As in, when we don't handle things perfectly.
I have had my mind of this, for several days, but with many distractions. :) GOOD distractions!
But back to thinking about this, it is good to reflect on our own short comings and failures as parents.
But today, I'd like to reflect on how to rescue a situation when it is going the wrong direction.
I love "do overs" ! "Would you like to try that again?" "Let's try that one over!" "How about doing that over with a kind tone in your voice!" There are a million different ways to suggest a do over....
With my little grandsons last week I simply spoke what I wanted them to say, and they repeated it back automatically.
But sometimes, we as adults need do overs too!
When you find yourself in the midst of your own personal melt down.... do not despair! It is not too late to try it again! And your children will not only pay attention, it can be used to a great advantage in their teaching!
Our kids have a hard enough time understanding family life and what is expected, and I'm sure many times they feel that we do not hold ourselves to the same standards that we have for them!
"Why do you get to eat after dinner and I don't?"
"Why do you get to stay up late and I don't?"
"Why do you get to go to the movies and I don't?"
"Why can you have coffee and I can't?"
and more..... :)
Children coming into our homes as strangers, have to learn how to be children on top of learning how to exist in a family structure!
This can bring friction that can be frustrating for parents. And sometimes as parents, with our window of tolerance fully open in the morning time, and after having a long stressful day, find that window closing to a narrower and narrower tolerance are quite capable of our own mini meltdowns!
Our patience runs thin, and then.... bam.... Mr. or Mrs. Ugly pops out and we say something in a harsh tone, or without the patience we normally exhibit!
This can be turned into a teaching time for our kids in the most positive of ways IF we aren't too proud to apologize and admit our own short comings! If you over react to a situation or lose your cool, be humble!
You can rescue yourself by saying, "Yikes! I think mom needs a do over! Don't you!"
You can infuse humor..... you can be serious and head to the rocking chair, but most of all, it is a time to PURSUE RELATIONSHIP!
Your child may respond negatively and spiral out of control by your own actions, because they are still fragile! They may not be able to handle our flaws while they are still so vulnerable.
BUT.... if we face our own flaws and admit them to our kids, we can go a long way in teaching our children that relationship is more important to us than anything, and teach them that even with all our flaws and their flaws, relationship is of utmost importance!
This lets them know that when they make mistakes, they need our forgiveness too and they are not going to break if they admit they are wrong!
They need to do "do overs" too and it isn't that hard! They will learn the difference between humility and humiliation!
We all need to go to the Lord in prayer, asking for strength and mercy! When our children see US go to the Lord for strength and ask for help... they will be inclined to do the same.
Being humble goes a long way in teaching our children that we can all make mistakes and still love each other. And part of being human, includes our imperfections!
There is a part in "The Connected Child" book by Karyn Purvis that mentions how our mistakes can be turned into something good. The children learn little by little that when we are hurt, or hurt others, that it is possible repair that relationship and even make it stronger!
Those little moments are turned into solid teaching time.... but don't make those moments an excuse for our own bad behavior!
There is a difference between getting stressed and just sloppy, or selfish parenting!
We ALL need to ALWAYS strive to do our best, as unto the Lord, who gives us strength!
"I can do ALL things through Christ, who gives me strength!" Phil 4:13.
I have had my mind of this, for several days, but with many distractions. :) GOOD distractions!
But back to thinking about this, it is good to reflect on our own short comings and failures as parents.
But today, I'd like to reflect on how to rescue a situation when it is going the wrong direction.
I love "do overs" ! "Would you like to try that again?" "Let's try that one over!" "How about doing that over with a kind tone in your voice!" There are a million different ways to suggest a do over....
With my little grandsons last week I simply spoke what I wanted them to say, and they repeated it back automatically.
But sometimes, we as adults need do overs too!
When you find yourself in the midst of your own personal melt down.... do not despair! It is not too late to try it again! And your children will not only pay attention, it can be used to a great advantage in their teaching!
Our kids have a hard enough time understanding family life and what is expected, and I'm sure many times they feel that we do not hold ourselves to the same standards that we have for them!
"Why do you get to eat after dinner and I don't?"
"Why do you get to stay up late and I don't?"
"Why do you get to go to the movies and I don't?"
"Why can you have coffee and I can't?"
and more..... :)
Children coming into our homes as strangers, have to learn how to be children on top of learning how to exist in a family structure!
This can bring friction that can be frustrating for parents. And sometimes as parents, with our window of tolerance fully open in the morning time, and after having a long stressful day, find that window closing to a narrower and narrower tolerance are quite capable of our own mini meltdowns!
Our patience runs thin, and then.... bam.... Mr. or Mrs. Ugly pops out and we say something in a harsh tone, or without the patience we normally exhibit!
This can be turned into a teaching time for our kids in the most positive of ways IF we aren't too proud to apologize and admit our own short comings! If you over react to a situation or lose your cool, be humble!
You can rescue yourself by saying, "Yikes! I think mom needs a do over! Don't you!"
You can infuse humor..... you can be serious and head to the rocking chair, but most of all, it is a time to PURSUE RELATIONSHIP!
Your child may respond negatively and spiral out of control by your own actions, because they are still fragile! They may not be able to handle our flaws while they are still so vulnerable.
BUT.... if we face our own flaws and admit them to our kids, we can go a long way in teaching our children that relationship is more important to us than anything, and teach them that even with all our flaws and their flaws, relationship is of utmost importance!
This lets them know that when they make mistakes, they need our forgiveness too and they are not going to break if they admit they are wrong!
They need to do "do overs" too and it isn't that hard! They will learn the difference between humility and humiliation!
We all need to go to the Lord in prayer, asking for strength and mercy! When our children see US go to the Lord for strength and ask for help... they will be inclined to do the same.
Being humble goes a long way in teaching our children that we can all make mistakes and still love each other. And part of being human, includes our imperfections!
There is a part in "The Connected Child" book by Karyn Purvis that mentions how our mistakes can be turned into something good. The children learn little by little that when we are hurt, or hurt others, that it is possible repair that relationship and even make it stronger!
Those little moments are turned into solid teaching time.... but don't make those moments an excuse for our own bad behavior!
There is a difference between getting stressed and just sloppy, or selfish parenting!
We ALL need to ALWAYS strive to do our best, as unto the Lord, who gives us strength!
"I can do ALL things through Christ, who gives me strength!" Phil 4:13.
Support Group In Katy Texas
If you are an Pre adoptive, adoptive, or Foster Parent and live in the Houston Area of Texas, I will be speaking on August 8th at the Kick off meeting for fall, at Orphan's Hope support group.
I am truly honored to be invited for this event! It is very exciting to be able to share with others!
The Location is: Grace Fellowship UMC in Katy TX. The Support group name is "Orphans Hope".
I am really looking forward to meeting and talking to everybody. What an honor. What an HONOR!
Now, to prepare! :)
I am truly honored to be invited for this event! It is very exciting to be able to share with others!
The Location is: Grace Fellowship UMC in Katy TX. The Support group name is "Orphans Hope".
I am really looking forward to meeting and talking to everybody. What an honor. What an HONOR!
Now, to prepare! :)
This Last Week
Well, it has been a fun and busy week!
The Fontes' Family, stopped overnight once again on their way home.
In fact, they had to reassign seats in their van, because they brought home another child. :)
Playing dolls
Resting
Playing Ninja with Sarah
Relaxing
Joe and Becca moved into a new apartment, but we are going to babysit their piano for a while. :)
Here is Truman looking at a book with Alli. Truman is 2, and quite the talker! I took him with me to the hospital to pick Erika up from volunteering and had the attention of the entire lunch table with his charming smile and impressions of a pirate..... "I'm a pirate!" (with one eye closed) "I have a sword at home!" LOL
It was a week full of fun visits and rest during the hot days of Texas Summer.
Getting aquainted with Uncle Joe.
Aunt Alli making baby Felix laugh.
Marcus making me laugh.
And good conversation.......
The Fontes' Family, stopped overnight once again on their way home.
In fact, they had to reassign seats in their van, because they brought home another child. :)
Joe and Becca moved into a new apartment, but we are going to babysit their piano for a while. :)
Here is Truman looking at a book with Alli. Truman is 2, and quite the talker! I took him with me to the hospital to pick Erika up from volunteering and had the attention of the entire lunch table with his charming smile and impressions of a pirate..... "I'm a pirate!" (with one eye closed) "I have a sword at home!" LOL
It was a week full of fun visits and rest during the hot days of Texas Summer.
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