I don't have enough of the details and the courts will make that decision.
A Bible Church Pastor is on trial, as well as several in his congregation, for inciting child abuse (for the pastor) and actual child abuse for the parents.... Folks, we are talking about babies as young as 2 MONTHS old, being struck with a dowel rod on a bare bottom. THAT IS CHILD ABUSE.
(I will declare that openly and without doubt)
The sad part is, I was raised and TAUGHT from the pulpit, the Striking Verses from Proverbs. I remember sermon after sermon, yet the interpretation of those scriptures didn't sit right with me. Something just seemed so wrong with it.
James Dobson made everything "funny" talking about beating his stubborn dog with a belt, back in the 1970's. I remember seeing a video and everybody laughing about it.
James Dobson came upon the parenting scene like a huge wave, after the 1960's Love Revolution and Rebellion, and protests of the VietNam war. We were deemed a nation of Rebellious children raised on Doctor Spock the liberal nemesis.
Dobson encouraged people to "DARE to
And not to be too hard on Dobson, I think his intentions were good. He just bases his entire conclusion on false teaching and on a false premise.
He believes that DISCIPLINE = PHYSICAL PUNISHMENT.... and don't forget he is NOT a theologian but a Psychologist! The very people who LOVE his ideas, tend to SLAM psychology.... That has always perplexed me.
Dobson thinks that if you SPANK your children regularly and consistently from the very first time they begin to disobey, (birth?, 9 months? 12 months? when ??? and what is that based upon?) then, by the time they are 5, you won't have to do it that much. That sounds very similar to the Pearls.
Dobson also believes that most of a child's future development in personality and nature happens within the first 5 years of life, so if you don't get them under control by FIVE, well, it is pretty much going to be difficult and awful. UMMMMM... FALSE AGAIN! There is not one scripture to back this up.
I remember being TAUGHT this, and was very frightened by the entire thing. You know why I was frightened? Because these guys mix SPANKING with Salvation. They tell you that if you don't spank your kids, how will they come to know God? How will they understand punishment?
I say, If all you do is spank your kids every time they do something wrong, how will they ever learn the GRACE and MERCY of our LORD JESUS CHRIST if they are constantly having to pay the penalty themselves???
The TRUTH IS:
There is NO SCRIPTURE THAT DEMANDS spanking! GOD HIMSELF did not even include it in the 10 Commandments! Nope it isn't there.
To shorten them, as Christ did.... you can sum them up in:
Love the Lord your God with All your heart, soul and mind, and love your neighbor as yourself.
As parents, would we want grace and mercy for ourselves when we sin, or a beating?That really isn't such a difficult answer.
I am sure this Pastor and the followers who have been caught up into this, want Mercy! They certainly don't want to go to prison, though one of them is already there.
I implore my Christian Brothers and Sisters to THINK about this! It is TIME TO TALK ABOUT IT!
You know why? Because Laws are being passed that FORBID the use of Spanking. The REASON these laws are being passed is because of the abuses those who advocate extreme corporal punishment cause.
To my readers from other countries, they already KNOW THIS WELL, and Spanking may be a foreign concept to them.
In America, it is rampant. You buy a car, go to work and spank your kids. Seriously??? Yes.
There are very few who do not.
I know NOBODY who has NEVER. I wish I were in the NEVER category. I was more in the seldom category, then EXTREMELY RARE category, until I got brave enough to break free, IN FAITH, NOT APART FROM IT!
I have actually heard parents say, "I'll go to jail for my right to spank!" Umm... REALLY? How is that going to benefit your child? You go to jail and they go to foster care??? REALLY, are you REALLY thinking this stuff through?
The CHURCH needs to stand up and begin to TEACH PARENTS what TRUE DISCIPLINE looks like! They need to begin to teach parents that spanking or hitting children, losing their tempers with external control techniques, consequencing them into the ground is NOT discipline, it is PUNISHMENT, and it DOES NOT WORK in the Long term. But before they can teach it, they have to live it.
I know a few who are doing just that, but they are way too few. And many times they are mocked and written off as "liberals".
The one thing I have heard over and over again is "Parents who don't spank, just Yell at their children to try and control them by screaming, and that is much worse!" This statement reveals that somebody who believes this does NOT understand true discipline. Just like Spanking is not = to discipline, screaming is not discipline either. I would say that is equivalent to an adult temper tantrum. It has NOTHING to do with discipline. How can an undisciplined, temper tantrum thowing parent teach their child anything?
They will also say spanking is quick and everything is over and done. Really? Over and done? Maybe for you, but the scars it causes are highly damaging and possibly irreparable.
This is SERIOUS STUFF .....
What you will find, after much study, OLD TESTAMENT AND NEW, is a merciful, gentle Savior who is great with compassion, SLOW to anger and ABOUNDING in Loving Kindness, who has MUCH to say to the one who would harm a little one.
to be continued......